Photo by: Barbara J. Moritsch

 

Organizations

Practically-Dying – Kim Mooney, Founder practically-dying.com.

Institute for Healthcare Improvement – “Your Conversation Starter Kit” – www.theconversationproject.org

National Institutes of Health and the National Institute of Nursing Research – Leads public forums and conversations on death – www.nihseniorhealth.gov/endoflife/planningforcare/01.html

PREPARE – www.prepareforyourcare.org

FCAI (Funeral Consumers Alliance of Idaho) – Boise, Idaho – www.fcai.fortboise.org

Funeral Consumers Alliance – www.funerals.org

Funeral Ethics Organization – www.funeralethics.org

Idaho QUALITY OF LIFE Coalition (formerly End-of-Life Coalition) Boise, Idaho – www.IDQOL.org

CAPC (Center to Advance Palliative Care) – https://www.capc.org/

Hospice & Palliative Care of the Wood River Valley – Ketchum, Idaho – http://www.hpcwrv.org/ – Carolyn Nystrom

Hospice and Palliative Care Conference (annual) – Boise, Idaho – http://www.idqol.org/2014-hospice-palliative-care-conference – Dying Well in Idaho is an annual conference presented in Boise, Idaho.

The Cambia Health Foundation – Portland, Oregon – http://www.cambiahealthfoundation.org/

Cancer Action Network (ACS) – Quality of Life Legislative Initiatives – www.acscan.org

Cancer Connection of Idaho – Boise, Idaho – www.cancerconnectionidaho.org – Viewing of Consider the Conversation and Consider the Conversation2 are available for loan through their library.

Final Exit Network – www.finalexitnetwork.org

Cremation for those w/o funds in Idaho: http://www.bannockcounty.us/indigent/

 

Forms

Visit The Idaho QUALITY OF LIFE Coalition (formerly End-of-Life Coalition) at www.IDQOL.org for ALL forms. You will find a free Idaho Advance Directives/POLST Information pack. This includes Living Will and Durable Power of Attorney for Health Care. Advanced Medical Directive – REGISTER your advance directives in the Idaho Health Care Directive Registry securely located in the Idaho Office of the Secretary of State or mail to: Idaho Secretary of State, Attention: Health Care Directive Registrar, 304 N. 8th St., Room #149, P.O. Box 83720, Boise, ID 83720-0080. I recommend you ask your physician questions pertaining to your directives so that you are clear on your decisions.

Advanced Directive for Conscious Dying: http://www.ttbook.org/sites/default/files/public/images/Advance%20Directive%20for%20Conscious%20Dying.pdf Buddhist Chaplain Steve Spiro can be heard in his interview with Sara Nics in Death: The Last Moment or the interview with Anne Strainchamps: Mindful Dying (To The Best of Our Knowledge – Death and Dying series: www.ttbook.org.

Five Wishes (pdf): https://agingwithdignity.org/docs/default-source/default-document-library/product-samples/fwsample.pdf?sfvrsn=2

Atul Gawande’s 5 questions to engage in end-of-life conversations: http://www.nextavenue.org/atul-gawandes-5-questions-ask-lifes-end/

 

Kate’s Recommended Reading

Extreme Measures: Finding a Better Path to the END of LIFE by Jessica Nutik Zitter, MD (2017)

Modern Death: How Medicine Changed the End of Life by Haider Warraich, MD (2017)

Launching Vee’s Chariot: An End-of-Life Tale by Kate Riley (Balboa Press/Hay House 2016)

Empty Jacket by Vicky Bates (2016)

The Good Death by Ann Neumann (Beacon Press 2016)

When Breath Becomes Air by Paul Kalanith (2016)

The Violet Hour: Great Writers at the End by Katie Roiphe (The Dial Press, an imprint of Random House 2016)

The Conversation: A Revolutionary Plan for End-of-Life Care by Angelo E. Volandes, M.D. (2015)

Life and Death: A Medium’s Messages to Help You Overcome Grief and Find Closure” by Tim Braun (2015)

Die Wise: A Manifesto for Sanity and Soul by Stephen Jenkinson (2015)

Death Makes Life Possible: Revolutionary Insights on Living, Dying, and the Continuation of Consciousness by Marilyn Schlitz, Ph.D. (2015)

Being Mortal by Atul Guwande, M.D. (2014)

The Grace in Aging: Awaken As You Grow Older by Kathleen Dowling Singh (2014)

How We Die: Reflections on Life’s Final Chapter by Dr. Sherwin B. Nuland (1995, 2014)

Knocking on Heaven’s Door: The Path to a Better Way of Death by Katy Butler (2013)

The Good Funeral: Death, Grief, and the Community of Care by Thomas G. Long and Thomas Lynch (2013)

The Truth About Grief: The Myth of its Five Stages and the New Science of Loss by Ruth Davis Konigsberg (2011)

Passages in Caregiving: Turning Chaos into Confidence by Gail Sheehy (2011)

Final Rights: Reclaiming the American Way of Death by Joshua Slocum and Lisa Carlson (2011)

The Art of Uncertainty: How to Live in the Mystery of Life and Love It by Dennis Merritt Jones (2011)

The Other Side of Sadness: What the New Science of Bereavement Tells Us About Life After Loss by George A. Bonanno (2009)

Living Deeply: The Art and Science of Transformation in Everyday Life by Marilyn Schlitz, Ph.D. (2008)

The BEST WAY To Say Goodbye: A Legal Peaceful Choice at the End of Life by Stanley A. Terman, PhD., MD (2007)

The Four Things That Matter the Most: A Book About Living by Ira Byock, M.D. (2004)

Making Friends with Death: A Buddhist Guide to Encountering Mortality by Judith L. Lief (2001)

Shaman, Healer, Sage: How to Heal Yourself and Others with the Energy Medicine of the Americas by Alberto Villoldo, Ph.D. – Highly recommended read for those who are interested in clearing the chakras before, during and after a death. Mr. Villoldo has incredible insight on The luminous energy field and reflects on death, dying & beyond. (2000)

The CELTIC Book on Living and Dying: An Illustrated Guide to Celtic Wisdom by Juliette Wood (2000)

The Grace in Dying: How we Are Transformed Spiritually As We Die by Kathleen Dowling Singh (1998)

The Dying Time: Practical Wisdom for the Dying & Their Caregivers by Joan Furman and David McNabb (1997)

Wrestling with the Angel: Jewish Insights on Death and Mourning edited by Jack Riemer (1995)

Death and the Final Stage of Growth by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross (1975)

 

Audio CDs/DVDs

Being with Dying: Contemplative Practices and Teachings Roshi Joan Hallifax (6 CDs) www.soundstrue.com

Consider the Conversation: A Documentary on a Taboo Subject and Consider the Conversation2: Stories About Cure, Relief and Comfort DVDs. Consider the Conversation reminds us that thinking and talking about life’s final chapter well in advance can help prevent unnecessary physical, emotional, spiritual, and social suffering. Both DVDs are available on “loan” from the library at: www.cancerconnectionidaho.org. In addition, both DVDS are now available for purchase for personal and educational use by visiting: http://www.considertheconversation.org.

The Idaho Quality of Life Coalition has an excellent DVD featuring: 1) A Clinician’s Guide to Starting Conversations about End of Life, and 2) Live P.O.S.T. Consult – www.IDQOL.org

Conscious Aging: On the Nature of Change and Facing Death by Ram Dass (2 CDs) www.soundstrue.com

When the Heart Breaks: A Journey Through Requited and Unrequited Love by David Whyte (2 CDs) www.soundstrue.com

GriefWalker – Director Tim Wilson (2008) View 70 minute documentary here: https://www.nfb.ca/film/griefwalker

A Will for the Woods: A last act, a gift to the planet – A documentary by Amy Browne, Jeremy Kaplan, Tony Hale & Brian Wilson – 2014 – 94 minutes – www.awillforthewoods.com or www.firstrunfeatures.com

Extremis – Jessica Nutik Zitter, M.D. – Short documentary available on Netflix.

States of Grace – Dr. Grace Dammann – Highly recommend viewing the trailer. Great reminder on the frailty of life.

Music

Graceful Passages: A Companion for Living and Dying (2 CDs) www.gracefulpassages.com

Eckhart Tolle’s Music to Quiet the Mind www.soundstrue.com

Songs of the Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer, performed by Kathy Zavada (1 CDs) www.soundstrue.com

 

Green Burials and Cemeteries

Green Burial Council – http://greenburialcouncil.org/home/about-gbc/staff/

Mountain View Green Cemetery, 3770 Lemhi Rd. Leadore, ID 83464 – www.mountainviewgreencemetery.com. Contact Jim or Bonnie Lockes @ 208.768.7095 or 208.768.7404

Caskets – visit www.lasthings.net for specific directions on building your own pine box

Urns – visit http://funeria.com/

Ashes to Glass – “Petglash” – One teaspoon of your beloved pet’s ashes makes up to a dozen beads. See website for beautiful jewelry options for pets and your dearly departed. Visit www.ashestoglass.com or call 1-888-418-9888.

Stover Glass – Lisa Stover of Stover Glass specializes in beautiful one-of-a-kind glass memorial pieces. Each piece is specially crafted to preserve the lasting memory of your loved ones. “Keep your loved ones close to your heart.” Visit www.stoverglass208.com or call 208-351-5298. Lisa has made six hearts with my mother’s ashes – all exquisite!

 

Interviews/Programs/Publications

Kate Riley is a caller on KGNU: http://news.kgnu.org/2016/02/end-of-life-series-coping-with-grief/

Reviews on A Good Death by Ann Neumann:

https://www.deathwithdignity.org/news/2016/02/good-death-ann-neumann/

Katy Butler in conversation with Good Grief host, Cheryl Jones (May 6, 2015) http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/85104/knocking-on-heavens-door

http://www.sfchronicle.com/opinion/openforum/article/The-conversation-about-dying-is-not-enough-6931905.php

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kristine-scruggs-md/the-dirty-secret-about-cp_b_9664496.html

http://www.jhartfound.org/blog/talking-with-patients-about-end-of-life-care-new-poll-reveals-how-physicians-really-feel/

http://www.nytimes.com/2016/04/15/world/americas/canadian-prime-minister-seeks-to-legalize-physician-assistedsuicide.html?_r=0

NPR “Talk of the Nation” – In Home Funerals: Families Care for Their Dead. The following link will afford you listening capabilities: http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=103668142

http://www.npr.org/2005/08/08/4785079/always-go-to-the-funeral

To The Best of Our Knowledge – www.ttbook.org – Death & Dying series

Frontline – Interview with Atul Guwande, M.D., author “Being Mortal” http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/being-mortal/

http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/04/29/the-right-paperwork-for-your-end-of-life-wishes/ – Dr. Jessica Nutik Zitter tells it like it is.

TED Talks – New Ways to Think About Death: Death is a topic that is relevant to us all, and yet it simply isn’t pleasant to talk about. These speakers offer subtle reframes to help us face life more thoughtfully and with greater compassion. A collection of TED Talks (and more) on the topic of death: https://www.ted.com/topics/death

The Atlantic – http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/05/how-not-to-die/309277/

TIME – http://healthland.time.com/2012/03/14/peter-goodwin-the-dying-doctors-last-interview/

TIME – Journalist Joe Klein on his cover story: How To Die – http://content.time.com/time/video/player/0,32068,1663996020001_2116085,00.html

The Sun Magazine – http://thesunmagazine.org/issues/460/the_long_goodbye (Katy Butler)

“Final Dispositions” is a work of fiction written by Linda McCullough Moore published February 2009 in The Sun – http://thesunmagazine.org/issues/398/final_dispositions (IT’S GOOD! – Reads like a true life story)

 

Bloomsbury Book Review – “The Conversation” by Angelo Volandes, M.D. http://www.bloomsbury.com/us/the-conversation-9781620408544/

First to Know – http://firsttoknow.com/why-the-dying-see-deceased-relatives/

The New York Review of Books – http://www.nybooks.com/articles/archives/2015/jan/08/better-way-out/

Leaving a Legacy – In the Mood for a Memory (leaving a legacy) http://www.mtexpress.com/news/business/in-the-mood-for-a-memory/article_6ee080cc-108a-11e5-aee4-abfb908cd3f2.html